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These are the skills that make relationships work!

0. Relational Circuits

Our brains are designed to be in relationship. The biological switch that manages how we respond in relationships is the relational circuit.

1. Share Joy

Joy is share when we use facial expressions and our vocal tones to amplify, " We are so glad to be together!"

2. Soothe Myself

Learning to quiet big emotions after joyful or upsetting events. This promotes a natural rhythm of shalom in our life.

3. Form Bonds for Two

Creating a mutual state of mind that brings us closer while letting us move independently, as well.

4. Create Appreciation

Appreciation creates belonging, changes stress to contentment, and builds a healthy mind.

5. Form Family Bonds

Family bonds help us share joy built by the people we love and provide freedom to grow and explore.

6. Identify Heart Values

Heart Values give us self-awareness to the foundational cares and pain that people have and how to support each other better.

7. Tell Synchronized Stories

Our brains are wired to tell stories. Prioritizing stories can help our minds work together for better relationships.

8. Identifying Maturity Levels

Recognizing where we are, what we missed, and where we are going, provides a roadmap to growth.

9. Taking a Breather

Build trust by reading non-verbal cues and purposefully take short pauses to avoid overwhelm.

10. Tell Non-Verbal Stories

The non-verbal parts of our stories can cross cultures, bridge generations, and strengthen relationships.

11. Return to Joy

Learning to quiet the distress of negative emotions to keep our brain relationally engaged.

12. Act Like Myself

Living relationally and responding gracefully, as we navigate pain, fatigue, misunderstanding, and more.

13. See What God Sees

Seeing people and events from the perspective of divine love provides a foundation for joy in your life.

14. Stop the Sark

The false perspectives and stories we hold can create unhealthy responses to love in our life.

15. Quiet Interactively

Skilled reading of non-verbal cues allows us to operation at high energy levels and manage our drive without hurting others.

16. Recognize Responses Styles

Knowing if people are at their best with activity or solitude brings the healthiest interactions

17. Identify Attachment Styles

How we attach to our caregivers influences how we interact in our adult relationships.

18. Intervene Where the Brain is Stuck

Sometimes our brains need help moving out of distress. Knowing the signs can help bring more peace into your life.

19. Recover from Complex Emotions

Utilizing all of the brain skills we can easily move out of the big six emotions.

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